It’s the first episode of the month, and that means this one is dedicated to women and boundaries. Do you have people in your life who drain you or over-share? Vicki gives us some simple strategies to manage. Tune in!
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #66:
- Being “draining” is in the eye of the beholder — it’s a matter of perception.
- When you want to distance yourself from a drainer or over-sharer, start by delaying your responses.
- Use ‘I hear you’ when you don’t want to engage, or you want to preserve your emotional energy.
- Exhaustion, time loss and missing out on relationships are just a few of the consequences of allowing someone to drain you or over-share with you.
- Do things that bring pure joy to you! Don’t waste time with things or people that don’t.
Highlights from Episode #66:
- Welcome back to the show! Today’s episode is dedicated to women and boundaries. [00:41]
- Vicki reads what a listener wrote about wanting to set limits on her friends to keep the relationship balanced instead of one-sided. [01:02]
- She discusses people that over-share and are draining and how women can sometimes attract them. [02:47]
- What does it mean to be draining or an over-sharer? It’s open to perception. [05:45]
- Signs that someone might be draining to you. [08:12]
- We may feel shame if someone shares too much personal information with us. [09:02]
- You have a right to set limits on how much of your time another person gets. [09:47]
- Decrease the amount of contact you have with a draining person if you don’t want to maintain a relationship with them. [11:24]
- Vicki gives simple strategies to limit your available time to listen to someone who is draining or want to over-share. [13:36]
- Say ‘I hear you’ to discourage more conversation and/or to preserve your emotional energy. [15:55]
- Have you ever gone out with someone who talked non-stop? Were you drained? [17:41]
- Once you disengage from someone, the payoff is that the brief discomfort you feel in the moment can turn into relief. [19:21]
- Vicki shares the consequences of allowing someone to drain you or overshare with you. [24:49]
- Do things that give you pure joy. If you take care of yourself, your tolerance diminishes for people who drain you. [27:11]
- If you want to learn the five steps for identifying, creating, and maintaining healthy personal and relationship boundaries, see the link below. [29:38]
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