Here in the US, we’re officially in the holiday season! But do you feel like the abundance of opportunities to spend time with people are actually stressful obligations? You may find yourself in a reactive (rather than responsive) mode, or feeling triggered or baited. I’d like to give you eight phrases that you can pull out to help you get through this potentially challenging season.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #74:
- During the holiday season, it’s easy to end up reacting rather than responding. These eight phrases will help you survive the holidays while maintaining your peace and your connection with others.
- The first of the eight phrases (and my favorite!) is simply, “I hear you.” It may feel stiff at first, but it will feel natural as you practice. This works particularly when others talk about their political views.
- A powerful strategy when someone says something directly hurtful to you is simply to say “ouch.” Don’t expand on it or make accusations; just say “ouch” and leave it at that.
- Here are the other options: smile and nod your head, or say one of the following: “You could be right,” “that’s interesting,” “I’ll have to think about that,” “I’m so curious about what brought you to that conclusion,” or “tell me more about that.” Tune into to learn when and how to use each!
Highlights from Episode #74:
In This Episode:
- Welcome to the episode! Vicki mentions some of the struggles of the holiday season, and explains that she’ll provide eight phrases to help you through. [00:39]
- Vicki goes into more depth about feeling baited, and how to handle it. [02:24]
- We hear the first of the eight phrases for getting through the holidays, which is Vicki’s go-to option. [04:53]
- The next option is to just smile and nod your head. The third is the multipurpose statement “you could be right.” Next up are “that’s interesting” and “I’ll have to think about that.” [07:47]
- Vicki shares the sixth and seventh phrases that you can use throughout the holidays. [11:01]
- Last but not least is the word “ouch.” Vicki gives an example of how to use this tool. [13:38]
- Vicki recaps the eight phrases that she has covered in this episode, and shares another phrase that might work depending on the region. [17:31]
- We hear about the role of self-care in a peaceful holiday season, and learn an important question to ask yourself when you’re tempted to react instead of respond. [19:46]
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